Family enjoys meal in cafe, but tells maid to stand at one side

There were still seats available in the cafe, but a family apparently did not allow their maid to sit with them. Instead, she stood in a corner, said STOMPer benji.

“The family noticed that I took pictures of them, so they asked her to sit down. But she was still left at the corner.

I approached her to offer her a drink but she just shook her head. Tears were welling up in her eyes.

She said she was part of that family. She looked like she was quite new.”

Full article from Singaporeseen on STOMP website here.

Do you think this is sad? I think this is disgusting.

How would you feel if you went overseas for a holiday or to work, and they made you stand in a corner because you were a foreigner?

You probably don’t know what it feels like, and trust me, you don’t want to know what it feels like. Take it from a Chinese girl who has lived in a Western country and crossed paths with the occasional racist Westerner.

Singapore is a nation with core values, always striving for a balance of democracy, peace, progress, justice and equality.

Don’t upset our balance please.

Treat others how you want them to treat you.


Not all Singaporeans are perfect, but not all of them are bad. I have a lot of nicer things to post soon! Stay tuned.


8 thoughts on “Family enjoys meal in cafe, but tells maid to stand at one side

  1. Disgusting is the perfect word.

    Here in the Philippines (and I guess as is in many other parts of the world), high profile families still require helpers to wear uniform. Nothing new about that but this is the first I’ve seen that a maid is alienated in such a way.

    • I know Dani 😦 My family would never make our maid feel so isolated, after all they have come a long way from home and if you don’t treat them like family, who will? Of course we have our fair share of maid horror stories where we have been the victim, but I will leave the ‘pregnant-bride-maid who also stole from us’ story to another time 🙂

  2. I see that sort of thing all the time here in Singapore. It bothers me to no end. Our helper is a wonderful and valued member of our family.

    • Hi Crystal, glad to hear that. What bugged me most is that if you look at the pictures, THERE WERE EMPTY SEATS. All around them! Maybe the family has a justification (defense?) to the situation, but if the maid had, I don’t know, a contagious disease, then she would not be outside, much less working right?
      I really can’t think of a justification for their behaviour. If anyone knows, please share.

  3. I find this to be absolutely appalling behavior. Being a foreign domestic worker is not slang for “second class citizen” or “dog”. If you have hired someone to work in your home, this does not equate to “slave”. All work is noble, and to be respected. It doesn’t matter if you are a CEO or a street sweeper, we all have to pay bills and put food on the table.

    The best way that this family should have dealt with their helper is to at least offer her a drink with the family, or given the option to find her meal or drink elsewhere. And if this family wanted to fly their “i’m better than you” flag, they could have at least afforded the helper the decency of being able to stay at home without being dragged around like so much luggage.

    Put yourself in their shoes before making an ass of yourself, and showing others how little class you have. Its not incredible that this happened, b/c i see it all the time, what is incredible is that its still happening – and very little is done to correct this.

    thanks for posting! i will pass around 🙂

    • Hi Linda, thanks so much for your heartfelt words. 🙂 I think most Singaporeans feel the same way as us – at least I hope they do. CEO and street sweepers… Youre right. They are all still people – they jsut have different jobs. So what? I know plenty of wealthy people who treat maids in their household as part of their family. Most even let them watch cable TV.

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