A Love Letter from God to a Single Singaporean Christian Girl

It’s been a while. My future husband must be lost, and he must be too stubborn to ask for directions.

The more I love God, the more my perspective of romance and relationships change. I wouldn’t date some of the guys I used to date, and I definitely don’t look for the same qualities that I looked for 5 years ago. Morals and maturity are more important than money, men with holy hearts suddenly appear on the attractiveness scale more than handsome ones, BMWs and bottle-popping have a much lower importance than biblical values… Please don’t faint, I don’t think anyone ever expected a Singaporean girl to talk like that!


Will other real Jesus girls please stand up so I don’t feel so alien and strange?

Keeping my first love for God is hard, but most days I couldn’t be happier at the emotional space and time I have to spend with family, helping out friends, playing with other people’s kids, traveling, sorting out my business projects, trying to be a blessing and all-round making myself a better person. Sometimes I’m sharing so much on Facebook that it looks like my social media is on steroids. I have gone a bit crazy on Instagram (@estellekiora)!

A few of the days though, it feels unfair and lonely. The world is cold and cruel without someone to cuddle you. You flick through your Facebook feed and it looks like your friends have got a nicer car or cooler boyfriend. You wish you had more money and shiny things. You watch some stupid movie’s ridiculous love story and you feel vulnerable and inedequate.

“What do they deserve that I don’t? When is it my turn?”

“Matthew 6:19-21 – Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
It’s only human of us to compare, envy, and look at others when we should just really be looking at God. Don’t look down on yourself – look UP.


In need of some encouragement, I spent some time with God and wrote a letter to myself. If God sent snail mails/emails/Tweets/Facebook messages, this would be it. This is what I imagine God would say to me – and to you – if you’re a single Jesus girl like me.


Dear child,

It is so great to hear from you. I’ve missed you so much. I love you and I am saddened to see that you feel alone. It breaks my heart that you miss having someone hold, or even to stroke your hair. I understand that while I am with you always, but you may not feel my presence. I assure you that I am with you always – I was with you while you were rushing around Raffles Place yesterday, while you grabbed that coffee at Starbucks, and even when you were sleeping on that plane to Hong Kong. When you quiet the things around you, you will hear my voice. Talk to me often, for I always want to hear from you.

It makes me glad that you are spending your time in worthy and wise ways, in your quest to become stronger, sweeter, smarter, and everything else that I have laid out in Proverbs 31. I have a wonderful man that I am preparing for you, the same way you are preparing yourself for him. He will be attracted to you not for your body, but because you are beautiful inside out. “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD will be praised. Proverbs 31:30.” He will pursue you with a passion, as I loved the church. Chivalry is not dead and he will be a gentleman, romancing you the way you desire in your heart. He will challenge you, travel with you, grow with you and he will most certainly make you laugh.

“Proverbs 4:23 – Guard your heart with all diligence, for from it flows the wellsprings of life. ”
Your heart is the wellbeing of your life. How you treat your heart, will translate into everything in your life. So keep guarding your heart, so that someone would have to come to me for it. I created you and I want the best for you, please don’t throw your purity and values away. You are far too precious to waste it, and such fleeting situations will not give you the happiness and satisfaction that you seek – only I can. I know you crave physical intimacy, and fear that you will not find something emotionally deeper. Come to me first to fill you up with love, because I am the only one who will never run dry or disappoint you. You feel something or someone missing in your heart, but it’s not what – or whom – you think.

It has taken you and your future husband time to learn these things.

He is not ready for you yet, but he will be. He will be the best man he can, but are you ready to compromise some things to be the ideal partner for him, too?

My princess, you may not presently understand my plan for you, but trust me for it. I have died and rose again for you. I sit with my angels in the heavens and watch you. Your heart is so precious to me, and only a man who treasures it will be worthy of it. I know you are in a haste, but I do not work within the constraint of time, so you are still young and you still have plenty. Don’t forget to enjoy your freedom now, I want you to have fun and fill your life with fulfilling things. Singleness is a desirable gift (1 Corinthians 7), so enjoy and embrace it. Remember Ruth, and I will give to you as I have given her Boaz.

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Don’t give up on me yet. I’m here and I love you.



Singlehood doesn’t have to suck – let’s all try to enjoy the Jesus journey we are on.



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7 thoughts on “A Love Letter from God to a Single Singaporean Christian Girl

  1. Hello! I don’t know if you remember me but I used to visit your blog often, haven’t been in a long while. As I was reading the letter, I felt goosebumps all over but not the bad kind. It felt more like a reassuring embrace. Thank you for sharing this and I hope more single girls out there will be blessed by it! 🙂

  2. You are amazing Estelle.
    So different from the girl that I once met in Melbourne all those years ago.
    Don’t give up. It will happen. It took me 30 years to find Kenneth and him 36 years to find me.
    In His Time.

    Sometimes I ask the question,
    “My Lord, is this your will?”
    It’s then I hear you answer me,
    “My Precious Child… be still.”

    Sometimes I feel frustrated,
    Cause I think I know what’s best.
    It’s then I hear you say to me,
    “My Busy Child… just rest”

    “I know the plans I have for you,
    The wondrous things you’ll see;
    If you can just be patient, Child,
    And put your trust in me.

    I’ve plans to draw you closer.
    I’ve plans to help you grow.
    There’s much I do you cannot see
    And much you do not know.

    But know this, Child ….. I LOVE YOU.
    You are Precious unto Me.
    Before I formed you in the womb,
    I planned your destiny.

    I’ve something very special
    I hope for you to learn.
    The gifts I wish to give to you
    Are gifts you cannot earn.

    They come without a price tag,
    But not without a cost;
    At Calvary, I gave Myself,
    So You would not be lost.

    Rest, Child, and do not weary
    Of doing what is good.
    I promise I’ll come back for you
    Just like I said I would.

    Your name is written on my palm,
    I never could forget;
    Therefore, do not be discouraged when
    My answer is… “Not Yet”

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  3. I’d never thought I’d say this to an attractive female blogger, but less pictures, more words please! It was a powerful letter, powerful for the level of genuine feeling I saw in it. This is coming from a guy most people think is atheist, btw.

    • Thank you very much Kevin! That is mighty kind of you. I’ve been getting ONLY female responses in public and in private about this blogpost, so it is actually surprisingly comforting and refreshing to hear from a male, Atheist of not – Jesus loves you too. Haha. He will write a love letter to you, sometime, in His time, I’m sure! 😛

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